💙 Balance is BULLS#!T
Going for balance in life is a waste of time.
There was a time I was so out of balance that all I did was work.
Balance is bulls#!t
You know, I find balance to be one of these intricate, messy, imprecise words or concepts to try to define. What is balance?
When I think of balance, I think of a teeter-totter at the same level; I think of a scale where both sides are balanced the same. I think of everything as being equal and everything being the same—in terms of how much pull or push it has on my life, or how much value it has in my life.
That’s what I think of when I think of the word “balance.”
When I think of my life, I actually don’t think I have any fucking balance.
There was a point in time when I worked so much that my life was out of balance and swayed so much toward work that I had practically no time for self-care, or health and fitness, or friends.
Then I got burnt out, and I got sick, and then the pendulum swung the other way, where I had no work and could only do things that were self-care oriented because I was so sick. So there was no balance—and I wasn’t happy when I was working so much and performing at a high level; and I wasn’t happy when I was sick, taking care of myself, and doing things like massages and walks on the beach and naps. I mean, I was so sick that I would wash the dishes and be so tired that I’d have to go take a nap afterwards, and I wasn’t happy doing that, either.
And now that I’m better from being sick, and I’m working a little bit and doing more self-care than I used to do before I got sick and less than when I got sick.
I still think I’m fucking out of balance.
I can see that there are very specific areas in my life that I would like to have more, and would require that I press my foot on the gas pedal more; and I can see that there are areas where I would like to be less impactful on my life, and to take my foot off the gas pedal in those areas.
And I think the key here is that there may be no such thing as balance.
Balance is bulls**t.
I feel like at any point in time in our life, the pendulum could be swinging one way or the other, or there could be certain things in our life that are taking up a lot of space and we’re pressing the gas pedal on. And at other points in time, we’re taking our foot off the gas pedal on those things and pressing it on others.
I feel like the most important thing to ask ourselves is: are you happy? If you’re not happy, then we need to make some serious changes.
If you’re not happy, take a look at the things in your life that are making you unhappy and put less priority on them. Make a shift and a transition to make yourself happy. And if you are happy with the way things are, then maybe there are no changes that need to be made.
My point is: I don’t think there is anything called balance. I think balance is bullshit. I think the real question here is, are you happy? If you're not happy, take a look at the things you can change, and make a change.
Balance is Bullshit! Go for Happy!!
– Sophie Boyko
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